Its all coming together...
So I am guessing some of you are curious about the details of the wedding I will be having...
Here's the original plan:
Me, Kris, and a JP at the waterfront in Burlington, and perhaps one person as a witness.
Here's the plan as of today:
Officiator: Bobby Lemay (one of my BFF's from work)
Photographer: Cindy Lemay (Bobby's wife, and very cool chick)
Wedding Cake Maker: Astrid Lague (Legue? shit I don't know! BFF from Girl Scouts)
Host: Bobbie Snider (BFF from work also...I think she's going to have to be my Maid of Honor too but she doesn't know that yet!)
Best Man: Isaac from Kris' work
Other attendees: Neil Snider (husband of Bobbie), and possibly Astrid's husband Chris. And who knows who else at this point!!!
Bobby got ordained through the internet to marry us and I can't wait!! He cracks me up and I know this will be a wedding to remember for a long time to come! At first we weren't going to tell anyone because we knew that some people would give us a hard time for it being so soon after we met. Let me tell you, I have known Rocky since I was 17 and that didn't help our marriage one little bit so I'm not buying into that crap where you have to wait a certain amount of time before you marry someone. Fuck that. Plus we are not going to have lived together before we get married which I think actually works in our favor. Hell, we aren't even going to live together until next Spring since his lease and job/school keeps him in Burlington and its silly for him to move here until its financially reasonable. That doesn't mean that we aren't going to see each other a ton, it just means that the kids will have more time to adjust to him being around, more time for them to get to know him and vice versa, and more time where we aren't getting on each other's nerves by living in the same house!!!! Ok just kidding about the last one...kind of.
We aren't going to tell his parents. I'm going to wait until after the fact to tell mine because that is what my mom has said she would want when she and I have talked about it. He wants to have a second ceremony someday in the future for his parents and family but we both are eager to marry now.
To me, a traditional wedding isn't very important. I already had one. This is me marrying someone I love for love not for security or parentage or anything except love. I can't imagine meeting anyone who would fit me any better than Kris or who would treat me better than he does. I am happier (and fatter) than I have been EVER and I love not being depressed. To not want to kill myself is a wonderful feeling. You don't know the times I have thought about it, dreamed of dying so that I wouldn't have to face reality, and now I am excited for the future.
And as crass as this sounds, if it doesn't work out, oh well I know how to get divorced. I want it to work out more than almost anything but I am realistic and I know that impulsive things can backfire. Not always, but I have to acknowledge it as a possibility. He seems like the type who would try to work out any difficulties we may have so that is promising. My counselor is excited for me and doesn't think we are crazy and she is thrilled to see me so happy so I'm taking that as a good sign!
Here's the original plan:
Me, Kris, and a JP at the waterfront in Burlington, and perhaps one person as a witness.
Here's the plan as of today:
Officiator: Bobby Lemay (one of my BFF's from work)
Photographer: Cindy Lemay (Bobby's wife, and very cool chick)
Wedding Cake Maker: Astrid Lague (Legue? shit I don't know! BFF from Girl Scouts)
Host: Bobbie Snider (BFF from work also...I think she's going to have to be my Maid of Honor too but she doesn't know that yet!)
Best Man: Isaac from Kris' work
Other attendees: Neil Snider (husband of Bobbie), and possibly Astrid's husband Chris. And who knows who else at this point!!!
Bobby got ordained through the internet to marry us and I can't wait!! He cracks me up and I know this will be a wedding to remember for a long time to come! At first we weren't going to tell anyone because we knew that some people would give us a hard time for it being so soon after we met. Let me tell you, I have known Rocky since I was 17 and that didn't help our marriage one little bit so I'm not buying into that crap where you have to wait a certain amount of time before you marry someone. Fuck that. Plus we are not going to have lived together before we get married which I think actually works in our favor. Hell, we aren't even going to live together until next Spring since his lease and job/school keeps him in Burlington and its silly for him to move here until its financially reasonable. That doesn't mean that we aren't going to see each other a ton, it just means that the kids will have more time to adjust to him being around, more time for them to get to know him and vice versa, and more time where we aren't getting on each other's nerves by living in the same house!!!! Ok just kidding about the last one...kind of.
We aren't going to tell his parents. I'm going to wait until after the fact to tell mine because that is what my mom has said she would want when she and I have talked about it. He wants to have a second ceremony someday in the future for his parents and family but we both are eager to marry now.
To me, a traditional wedding isn't very important. I already had one. This is me marrying someone I love for love not for security or parentage or anything except love. I can't imagine meeting anyone who would fit me any better than Kris or who would treat me better than he does. I am happier (and fatter) than I have been EVER and I love not being depressed. To not want to kill myself is a wonderful feeling. You don't know the times I have thought about it, dreamed of dying so that I wouldn't have to face reality, and now I am excited for the future.
And as crass as this sounds, if it doesn't work out, oh well I know how to get divorced. I want it to work out more than almost anything but I am realistic and I know that impulsive things can backfire. Not always, but I have to acknowledge it as a possibility. He seems like the type who would try to work out any difficulties we may have so that is promising. My counselor is excited for me and doesn't think we are crazy and she is thrilled to see me so happy so I'm taking that as a good sign!
2 comments:
I have seen you together, and I am more than excited for you. I think it is a great thing - and I am a believer in Love. Capital L. And you've got it.
To me, happiness, moments of giddy happiness - that's the ultimate goal. To look at your husband with a big grin and not have to explain it. That's it. :)
And, I can't wait to make your cake!!!
I can't wait either!! I want to do it now lol
He said he wanted a dragon or something on the cake but I don't know how complicated that would be. If it seems like too much then stick with butterflies :) I don't know the limits of fondant...LOL!!!
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